Women must find a husband in college, Princeton grad advises

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Via Flickr user World Bank Photo Collection

A woman is only as good as her husband. And if she doesn’t have one…well, let’s ignore that.

This is what can be concluded from a letter to the editor written by a Princeton University alumnus to The Daily Princetonian, Princeton University’s student newspaper.

Addressed to “the young women of Princeton,” the letter has quite a few gems of rant-worthy anti-feminism. “For most of you, the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you. Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”

The alumnus, who also has two Princeton-attending sons (who are probably not going to date Princeton women any time soon), instructs women that they must find a husband while in college. They will never be surrounded by so many men who are “as smart or smarter than we are” because “as Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market.”

If you’re also in the majority of the world who never attended the New Jersey university, we’re out of luck.

It’s hard to believe that someone thinks that, and it’s almost laughingly easy to pick apart the woman’s argument. (And if you think it’s satire, she writes here that she was serious.)

There are smart people in the world who don’t hold a Princeton degree — or even a college degree at all. Not everyone should or wants to marry straight out of college, or at all. Intelligence is not necessarily the most important trait in a spouse for everyone. No one’s self-worth is tied to marriage. It’s a sexist premise because it is only addressed to women. And should gay women also take this advice to heart?

This grad’s letter also disproves its own argument because it shows that not everyone who graduates from Princeton is smart.

I understand why The Daily Princetonian published the letter, infuriating as the argument may be. Besides the fact that it’s received lots of readers and pushes the newspaper into conversation, the letter to the editor also shows that there are people out there who believe that happiness for women can’t be achieved without marriage.

We can forget that these people exist. We are often told that women don’t need a husband, but there are people — fellow females — who think the opposite.

I’m not saying marriage is bad. I’m just saying it’s a choice — and women can be fulfilled without it.

I gather Princeton didn’t teach that to this grad.

  1. Didn’t realize the alumnus was a woman until like the sixth paragraph, makes the whole thing a little more ridiculous

    • It does. Now that I read it, it’s easy to think in the first few paragraphs that a man wrote the letter.

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